JUST TALK Daniell Fedrón
June 6, 2007
If there is anything we should have learned from life is that no relationship is perfect. We have to learn to deal with imperfections and idiosyncrasies coming from both sides and rising to more than one level. For those of us who have the patience, tolerance and resistance to withstand these tests of nature the rewards are waiting to be harvested. On the other hand, those who don’t even try or are trying withholding in the back of their minds their true desire to make their relations work the end of the rainbow will not reveal the golden treasure but will without a doubt spell disaster. Let’s face it building a relationship takes lots of hard work. Opps! There goes that dream of one hundred percent comparability.
“Time heals all.” This is an old maxim heard by most people by now, but does it really heal all? If it did we would not be relying so much on our past experiences to build our present and new ones. Rather than waiting for time to heal us, may be we should be sorting out or dismantling the building whose foundation was erected under false and erroneous pretenses. Who would be better than you to know what is sincere and what constitute a fully concocted potion of treachery and malicious premeditation.
Eventually, love will conquer all for it radiates that aura of sincerity needed to combat and destroy most if not all the negative variables permeating daily through our minds. The bare essentials of our lives as a team rest on establishing a strong, healthy and trustworthy relationship. That is, something that will not be shaken up or withered by time. At the top of the ranks should be respect. If we don’t have it for one another then close the chapter on the book and move on. Understanding and care for each other are but two crucial pieces in an incomplete puzzle. Ultimately, there should be no room for jealousy, control, blame, disbelief, sarcasm, criticism, threats and insults. These few components will always be present in unhealthy and seriously deteriorated relationship, those that have passed the “point of no return.”
In essence, the roads we have traveled should hold the key and unveiled the answers. It doesn’t matter how well educated we are. It matters even less that we visit our therapist a zillion times and flood the rivers with our tears. Good old common sense, gardens full of roses, love notes, lots of kisses and many more hugs, a healthy sex life, breaking the communication barrier, simply adjusting our own rules and our sole desire and commitment to make it will determine if our relationships will stick it and cross the finish line. “Together until the end of time.”
All will require a collective effort that could spin our heads in an emotional rollercoaster but will pay its dividends in the end. Now let’s not forget that somewhere along the line, divine intervention is always a plus. It’ll help us cope with the dissolution and the disgust that will embalm our soul if the love we struggled to build suddenly, takes a plunge.
Copyright © 2007 by Daniell Fedron
